Twin Flames

"Every human being has a twin-soul. When man leapt like a spark from the bosom of his Creator he was two-in-one, and these two parts complemented each other perfectly, each was the others twin.

These two halves became separated, they took different directions, and they have evolved separately. If they come to recognize each other at any point in their evolution, it is because each carries the image of the other in the depth of his being, each has put his seal upon the other. Thus, each carries the image of his twin-soul within. The image may be blurred but it is there. For this reason, everyone who comes to Earth has a vague hope that he will find a soul who will be everything he needs, and that with this soul he will find indescribable harmony and perfect fusion.

Twin-souls complete each other; no other person in the world can so complete them.

Thus, all beings you have met since the beginning of your multiple incarnations, all the husbands and wives you've had, all the lovers or mistresses, have all left you, because they were not for you.

Perhaps you were together for a while, like a pot with a lid that doesn't match. Whereas two Souls whom God has created together are absolutely made one for the other, and nothing can separate them, truly, they have no fear of being separated.

In a married couple, when one or the other is AFRAID that someone may 'rob' him of his partner, (and nothing can keep this from happening), it is because that partner is not truly the beloved, not the TRUE beloved, the twin-soul...Twin souls recognize each other with absolute certainty and can never truly leave one another."

~ Omraam Mikhael Aivanhov


I always dreamt of finding my Soul Mate.  Several times in my life I was certain I'd found him, only to be disappointed when he turned out not to be "the one".  It was only after I'd finally met "the one" that I learned about Twin Flames.  Actually, I always knew what Twin Flames were - that's what my soul was driven to find - I'd just been using the wrong word.

You can have many Soul Mates in your life, but only one Twin Flame.  You and your Twin Flame are two individual spirits that are halves of a complete soul.  So, those who I thought to be my Soul Mates may have been just that.  By anticipating they were more than that but not understanding what that more was I most likely missed out on a lot they had to offer in my life and may not have been able to give all I had to offer in theirs.  I was expecting the void to be filled that could only be done so by my Twin Flame, was truly "expecting too much" and I usually became demanding, needy and bitchy.  I apologize.


Excerpt from Soul Mates & Twin Flames -

"So if Soul Mates are our spiritual family, what are Twin Flames? Twin Flames are ourselves in another body. When Souls chose to enter into physicality, they were split into masculine and feminine aspects. Please note, I did not say male and female, because throughout our incarnations, we will be in both genders of bodies. When we first leave the Light to enter into physicality, we will connect with our Twin Flame. This is done so we will not feel so totally alone in the human experience. After this we go our separate ways and grow lifetime after lifetime in experience and wisdom until we are ready to break free of the bonds of physicality and mortality. When we have reached this stage we have the opportunity to reconnect with our “other half” or Twin Flame.

The chances are that we meet our Twin Flame briefly in many lifetimes, but one or both of us are not ready for the intensity of this connection. When both halves of the whole are ready to come back together and meet they will discover that in that lifetime they have lead almost parallel lives. The events of their lives will mirror each other almost exactly. They may have come from very similar families and family dynamics. They may have had similar schooling or lack thereof. They may have almost identical careers. They may even have previous marriages and divorces within weeks of each other. When Twin Flames get to know each other, they will feel as if the other is reading their life script.

Once in relationship, the bond between Twin Flames can only be compared to the bond between identical twins. They are aware of each others thoughts, feelings, desires and needs at a level that is hard to imagine. The depth of Love is such that to be apart even for a day is a hardship. What is meant by that is that their hearts literally hurt when they are separated from each other. Even if only for the work day. It is this depth of Love that reminds them of the Oneness of Light to which they are returning. By anchoring this Love in the physical, not only are they preparing for their own ascension, but they are also leaving an imprint for others to follow in time for their own.

All relationships serve a purpose and should be honored and appreciated for what they have to offer you in your personal spiritual growth. Thank the person and the experiences for all that you have had the opportunity to learn and clear. Know that ALL relationships are sacred, because they bring us closer to the Light of All That Is. Amen and Be Blessed!"



With your Twin Flame you don't expect anything because it's there.  I did go through the emotional sabotage I'd done before with my Twin, but that wasn't because I wasn't worthy of him or doubted him.  It was because of my trauma history and discovering that was all part of my path of learning.  The adage "You never appreciate something 'til it's gone" rings true in a lot of things.  I believe I was brought together with my Twin to be able to enlighten my spirit that what I knew actually does  exist, but I was separated from him because I had a lot of learning, growing and healing that had to be done on my own.  Because I sought my Twin I was forever looking from one relationship to the next.  Now I put my energies into growth, learning and offering my gifts to better the lives of others, my son and myself (not necessarily in that order!).  


Meeting my Twin Flame was amazing.  Everything I yearned for all my life (or lives) was just there. My soul resonated in harmony with another and I was complete.  I knew him – his spirit – his heart – his soul – everything.  Meeting and being with him was the most beautiful experience I've ever had or could even imagine. I have so much more to share on this but will do so later.  I will not share anything that will cause him or his family any grief, so please bear with my not identifying more about him.  I will share a little here about what it's like to find you Twin Flame.

"... and when one of them meets the other half, the actual half of himself, the pair are lost in an amazement of love and friendship and intimacy and one will not be out of the other's sight even for a moment..."

     ~ Plato


Our paths had crossed in this life numerous times – sometimes at the same time – in which there was something there that we could feel.  For instance, we came from opposite ends of the same coast but ended up for different reasons somewhere in the middle.  He remembers seeing a girl on a horse (in a place you wouldn't expect to see that) and only learning 20 years later that was me.  We both have been places the other has been but at different times (and we're talking throughout North America) and have met the same people, sharing the same experiences, repeatedly.


When we finally met, I felt so at ease with him, but at the same time there was this energy that I couldn't describe.  I had such a long history of abuse in relationships and at the hands of others that my psyche was all screwed up.  Yet there was this pull that I didn't understand at the time.  It wasn't until we actually touched that the magic and knowledge hit me.  It was like learning EVERYTHING you could ever know in one instant.  Like blowing the walls off a small dark room and being immediately surrounded by color, sunlight, moonlight, music, nature's music… everything beautiful and more… like every sense was awakened for the first time. Too cool.  However, it was so intense that I was completely overwhelmed.  I froze.  Not like the way I freeze when threatened (and I think he thought I was asleep) but  it was so intense because the answer to every question I'd ever had, to every dream, every hope and desire, was there without asking. 



"Where have you been???"


We know where the other is no matter where we are – even from a great distance.  We could find each other in a large crowd without fail, just walking straight to each other.  That's so cool.  I feel him 24 hours a day unfailingly.  When we were apart before we would automatically look at the stars and be looking at the same constellation - Lyra. Even after we were separated when I was in a serious accident he felt it.  I attended a Nethercot Family Reunion in Branson Missouri over the 4th of July in 2006.  Somehow I'm sure he "felt" me as I did him. 

 "This was too easy...
I feel like there's a big test ahead
and it's going to be really hard..."

Although we found each other we both had things to finish in life – commitments, responsibilities, unresolved karma, love and growing.  So we were torn apart.  Well, he left, I was torn apart.  Losing My Twin Flame broke me, but you can't lose your Twin.  You can only be separated from them.  Twin Flames are eternal.  When I get down and struggle with pain, loneliness and faltering hope I remember that my Twin exists and I never have to search for something I couldn't name.  I know now.  He has a life he needs and wants to live and I have things I must learn and do on my own. 


I am at peace for knowing my Twin Flame.  It sucks to be separated from him and there's no telling when we'll be reunited.  I'd prefer it be in this lifetime, but, considering Twin Flames are eternal, I guess I can survive "as long as it takes" when "forever" is the reward.  Patience and faith are parts of the test, and tests are part of the journey. Trust me, there are days when patience is in deficit and I want more than anything to be with him right now, but… * Sigh *  that's all part of the lesson. 


My Twin is not mine to "possess". His existence is a gift that completes me.  Although the bond is eternal, I have no right to expect that we will be reunited in this life. I have only the hope that by the way I live my life, things I learn and share with others will keep me on the path that will let us be one.  You can't force those things – they have to be done pure of heart, mind and spirit.  So someone who does them with selfish desires is not truly walking the path. My need for my Twin is not selfish.  It's the need to be whole.  But Twin Flames can only satisfy that need when both Twins have completed their individual journeys and responsibilities.  I would not be honoring my Twin by interfering in his journey.  That was a difficult and lonely lesson to learn, but the result of that lesson was enlightenment and embodiment of true unconditional love. 

I know unconditional love.



"How will I know I've met my Twin?"

"Meeting the 'other half of your soul' is generally so life changing and profound that this question is unnecessary.... you just know.  Twin souls will both recognize this extraordinary bond, whether they are evolved and whole enough to acknowledge and act upon it is another thing.  Meeting with your twin soul brings about an internal spiritual revolution, a deeper connection and understanding of the Divine and the Universal Oneness, this is the greatest gift of knowing your twin. Twin soul love is not to be confused with an obsessive/compulsive disorder, it's not a desire to 'possess' another, but truly a challenge to love unconditionally and without expectation, to be whole and complete within yourself before joining with the other whole and complete side of your soul.  The longing and desire to be with your twin soul is intense, but through growth and perception can be seen as the greater longing to join with the Divine, and that is the true lesson, you are two halves of a much greater whole.

When you meet your twin, there will be no 'game-playing' or manipulation, you will have the need to be transparently honest in your relationship and communication with one another.  If there is karma from past lives to work out between you, it will be apparent and consciously worked out.  If you or your twin is committed to another relationship, you will respect and honor that bond and realize the tests of unconditional love. Meeting your twin soul challenges you to grow spiritually, heal mentally, emotionally, physically, and to see beyond time, ego and physical limitations.  You will be driven with the desire to be the best manifestation of your soul on earth.  This is not a relationship of hearts and flowers, but one that will be tested in fire and will endure beyond time and space."

I thought the next two photos looked "Twinish"

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The Egg Nebula

This image of the Egg Nebula shows two mysterious beams emerging from a hidden star like search lights. These beams are caused by dust and gas that is being ejected from the star as it nears the end of its life cycle. The Egg Nebula is known as a bipolar protoplanetary nebula and is located about 3,000 light-years from Earth.


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Twin Galaxies NGC 3314

This image shows NGC 3314, two spiral galaxies that are located along the same line of sight, one in front of the other. This rare alignment gives astronomers a chance to study the dark dust lanes in the foreground galaxy.


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The background photo for this page was taken by the Hubble Teliscope